If there is a debate anywhere, I am there. I love discussing, disagreeing, and learning about topics ranging from Eminem to slavery impact in Australia. However, one aspect I have learned to avoid is arguing.
I hate arguing these days. It took a long while to feel this way and acknowledge the stupidity of it. I used to love arguing for the sake of arguing. To this day, many confuse my renewed sense of disagreement as arguing because of my past. All I can say is arguing gets nobody anywhere with anybody.
How often do you listen to someone who is pointing out valid points? Now, how often do you listen to someone spewing nonsensical arguments? I usually listen to the former and rarely ever with the latter.
Arguing rarely opens minds to your point of view. This doesn’t mean that everyone must agree with you, rather they intently listen to your view points and take it into consideration when making their judgment on a topic. I have no problem with others disagreeing with me. However, I do dislike it when a wall is immediately placed preventing any possible positive communication and growth.
You may be asking how this applies to simplifying your life. It applies in many ways. How much time have you wasted getting emotional with someone that you are just arguing with? I have done it. I wasted a lot of time just doing that. My life is not simplified by bringing emotion into a topic that I may not have too many concerns about originally. I manage to simplify my life by sticking to acceptance of differing opinions and growth from that. If one can do that, constructive discussions are always possible.
Lastly, I want to make the most valid point against arguing. If you have to argue, why are you even having the discussion? Like stated above, if you are not having a constructive discussion that benefits the knowledge of all parties involved then you are wasting your time. A simplified life is one which allows you to get the things you want done in a simpler fashion. Arguing does not resolve anything simpler. For that reason alone, I hope more of you evaluate your approach to disagreements and grow from there.
Have a great day!!!
David Damron
The Minimalist Path
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